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It can be heartbreaking to watch a loved one struggling with depression.
Naturally, you want to help them but may not know where to start.
It can also make your loved one feel validated and allow them to unburden themselves.
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If you don’t know what to say to someone who is depressed, that’s OK.
It’s a complex and painful topic.
Instead of giving vague advice like “Things will get better,” offer a listening ear.
Suggest Resources
There are a number of resources designed to helppeople with depression.
This is where you come in.
Offer your loved one support with finding resources.
When online, visit988lifeline.orgfor its chat line.
SAMHSA can also help by calling800-662-HELP (4357).
Check in Regularly
Check on your struggling loved one regularly.
Visit them at home or make a simple phone call or text.
Let them know that you are thinking of them and provide ways for them to connect with you.
Break that cycle by reaching out to your loved one and checking in.
They’re not necessarily being unthoughtful or taking you for grantedtheir behavior is likely a manifestation of their condition.
Offer to Help With Meals and Errands
Simple daily tasks can feel insurmountable to someone with depression.
A practical way to help someone with depression is to take on some of their responsibilities when you might.
Offer to do things like planning and preparing meals or running errands.
Spend some time cleaning their house or filling their car with gas.
It’s equally essential for your loved one to learn ways to self-soothe and cope independently.
Establish boundaries and limits to what you’re willing to do for them and how often.
Encourage Them to Seek Treatment
Support your loved one with depression by encouraging them to seek professional treatment.
Gently remind your loved one of the importance of seeking treatment.
Start with short-term, simple goals.
You could also gift them a goal-setting notebook or planner and set aside time to complete it.
Sleeping and Depression
Changes in sleep patternslike sleeping too much or too littleare symptoms of depression.
What If Someone Doesnt Want Help?
Your loved one may not recognize that they have depression or don’t want your help.
It may even feel like they’re shutting you out.
You must balance respecting their boundaries and looking out for their well-being.
Be sure to keep your own mental health in mind, though, to avoid caregiver burnout.
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