Attachment theory was proposed by psychoanalyst John Bowlby in the 1940s and was aided in development bydevelopmental psychologistMary Ainsworth.
Based on attachment theory, attachment can either be secure or insecure.
Secure attachments are considered healthy, while insecure ones can cause dysfunctional effects.
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Read on to explore theavoidant attachment stylein more depth.
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What Is Avoidant-Insecure Attachment?
The avoidant attachment style is one of three insecureattachment stylesidentified in attachment theory.
People with an avoidant attachment style have trouble trusting others to meet their needs in a relationship.
Someone with an avoidant attachment style typically seeks independence in their relationship and may even push others away.
They value control and autonomy and often use distancing strategies.
What Causes Avoidant-Insecure Attachment?
They may have been strict and have expected their child to be tough and independent.
This insecurity and lack of trust can carry into adulthood and affect their adult relationships.
Attachment styles can naturally change over time through life and relationship experiences.
They can also be changed intentionally, but it requires effort and a drive to do so.
Summary
Avoidant attachment is one of three adultinsecure attachment styles.
People with an avoidant attachment style tend to be independent and find emotional intimacy difficult.
It is often hard for them to form and maintain deep romantic relationships.
It’s possible to change an avoidant attachment style through working on being more emotionally available and responsive.
It can help to see a professional such as a therapist to assist in guiding this transition.
Frequently Asked Questions
Avoidant attachment is a form of insecure attachment.
Three of the four adult attachment styles are classified as insecure.
People with an avoidant attachment style tend to be independent and value autonomy.
Emotional intimacy is challenging for them.
They can have a difficult time showing their emotions, seeking reassurance, and providing comfort to their partners.
Children who grow up in an environment where emotional displays are discouraged or punished may develop an avoidant attachment.
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